Pride Retreat

We are sad to say that we are postponing the Pride Retreat, originally scheduled for Nov. 5-7 at Silver Lake.

The intention of this event is to give LGBTQ+ youth and allies an opportunity to feel a part of a wider community, and we are not able to offer that experience this year due to low enrollment.

“We are, of course, deeply disappointed but recognize that the ongoing impacts of the pandemic mean that this November is just not the right time yet,” wrote Pride Retreat Deans Skyler Keiter-Massefski, David Pletta, and Seth Hodge.

Silver Lake is committed to offering events that support and affirm LGBTQ+ youth, families, and allies. We will work to identify a future date for a high school retreat as well as to create other ways for our families to engage with each other around issues of identity and faith.

Please keep an eye out for information about a new event, either this spring or next fall, as well as other new programs.

Due to the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic all of our programs are being evaluated and possibly reimagined to incorporate safety procedures, such as smaller group sizes and physical distancing. Policies could include requiring full vaccination, proof of a negative PCR Covid test before arrival, masking, distancing, etc. More information will be sent to participants in advance of the program.

Vaccine Requirement Announcement

Beginning fall 2021, Silver Lake will require all guests to our site to be fully vaccinated against Covid-19. Those who are not able to be vaccinated due to a medical condition or due to age may show proof of a negative PCR test taken not more than 3 days before the event. Read the full announcement.

Join us for Pride Retreat, Nov. 5-7, 2021!

This weekend retreat is a safe space for members of the LGBTQIA+ community and their allies to explore issues of identity and faith through a lens of progressive Christian values. All are welcome, regardless of faith identity or belief. 

9th-12th graders will join a community of peers for fun, laughter, connection, music, community, campfires, history, low ropes, arts and crafts, fashion shows, and discussion.

Weekend lodging is determined by age, not by gender.

Registration is available online; the cost is $140 per person; a complete health record and Covid-19 vaccination is required. 

Financial assistance is available.

Complete the 2021 Pride Retreat Scholarship Application.


A note from your retreat leaders:

Dear campers and families,

We are David, Seth, & Skyler and we are so excited to be the deans (program leaders) for Pride Retreat at Silver Lake this fall! We can’t wait to spend a weekend together, sharing stories, playing games, and letting our most fabulous selves shine.

We realize that you may have a lot of questions about Pride Retreat as you consider signing up. Below, you’ll find short bios of each of us, so that you can begin to get to know us and become comfortable with our leadership team. You’ll notice that we are a varied group: different identities, life experiences, religious backgrounds, and more! We are also currently recruiting a diverse counseling staff for the weekend. Though all of our stories are different, it is important to us that parts of your stories are reflected in our adult staff. And together, we will create new stories as a community!

Please feel free to contact Silver Lake if you have any questions about the retreat, and we hope to see you in November!


David, Seth, & Skyler


Skyler Keiter-Massefski David Pletta Seth Hodge

 Skyler Keiter-Massefski (they/he)

Skyler Keiter-Massefski is a trans/queer/disabled activist-scholar interested in investigating how queer stories get told and making trans lives more livable.

They studied anthropology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and have a Master of Divinity degree from Yale University.

Skyler has a wealth of knowledge in working with queer youth, including having spent more than eight years as a summer camp counselor and dean at Pilgrim Lodge (Maine UCC) – part of which was leading the Camp Pride week for high schoolers.

Their religious background is a mix of influences from the United Church of Christ and Reconstructionist Judaism, but most of all, Skyler is interested in finding the divine on mountaintops, on the dance floor, at the protest, and other unexpected places.

Skyler currently lives in Chapel Hill, North Carolina with their spouse and three pets, though they will always call New England home.

If you have any questions about the retreat and would like to contact Skyler, you can email them at





David Pletta (he/him)

David Pletta is a public health researcher interested in the mental health of LGBTQ+ people. He is a second-year PhD student in Population Health Sciences at Harvard University, and he has an MPH from Boston University and a BS & BA from UC Santa Cruz.

David was raised and confirmed Roman Catholic, but he left the church after coming out as gay. While he is no longer religious, he likes to stay open-minded and ask questions. He understands how folks, particularly queer folks, might question their faith.

David is a self-identified nerd who loves to talk about public health, colleges, science, anime, pets, and video games. He and his partner, Seth Hodge (a long-time Silver Laker), live in Attleboro, MA with their dog Lucy.

If you have any questions about the retreat and would like to contact David, you can email him at













Seth Hodge (He/Him)

Seth Hodge is the Associate Dean of Students at a small engineering college and has spent his career working to support students on campuses in all areas of Student Life. 

Seth first crossed the threshold of Silver Lake in 1987 as a young conferee and has considered it his “spiritual home base” and his home away from home ever since, serving on summer staff as a teenager, as a dean both for summer conferences and weekend retreats, and as a trainer for the summer staff and deans on LGBTQ+ support services. 

In his work life, Seth has co-created nationally used best practices centered around inclusive housing on college campuses and has acted as an advisor for many LGBTQ+ student groups and organizations. In addition, he has used his degree in counseling to serve as a first responder in his community to support displaced LGBTQ+ youth in crisis.

Seth’s spiritual journey and his journey as a gay man have been very intertwined, sometimes finding themselves at odds and other times in perfect harmony.   In his personal life, Seth is a movie buff, loves woodworking, gardening, creating art and spending time with his partner David and their dog Lucy.

If you have any questions about the retreat and would like to contact Seth, you can email him at


 Registration is available online; the cost is $140 per person; a complete health record and Covid-19 vaccination is required. 


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